Tuesday, November 14, 2006
The Projection - Freud
What for us seems perfect, is seen only under our lenses, whose vision occurs since the birth, moving with the growth. The projection could be explained as “point of view”; thus, all we have one. The question is the form to act and to react before this. The projection indicates the capacity of the human being to place the responsibility or the guilt in the others, therefore, the reality of our life is that one that we create. To make right, the point of view requires courage and a concept on the moral, without preconceptions ahead of the society. In the same way that we obtain to extract qualities that one another person does not know, also we extract the negative characteristics, many of which, they could have remained as seeds. For Freud, projection is “the garbage can in which the unconscious one of the particular fragments of each person”. To get success in the relationship, iis necessary, first, to accept the existence of our “opposite”, that it is not easy, since provocs a discomfort and feeling of inadequation. The projections most disastrous will occur (probably in as the year of marriage) when the couple keep its base in the sexual relationship or for the social context (proportionate frequency of the house of the beach of one of the spouses, trips for the fathers-in-law, etc.). They do not indicate the success of the marriage; in contrast. While it will have money and leisure, everything is emotive, but when the budget to become low, the convivence will be dull and difficult. The biggest error is to see in the other, the form to carry through personal projects and this, instead of helping, worsening still more the situation. Much of what it occurs in the projection, is derived from infancy and the ateen. In general way, we blame the society, the parents, or the quarter that we live and we grow for the positive consequences or negative later that we ripen. Everything is activated and “filed” in the brain. To take off optimum necessary advantage of that is recognizing the beneficial influences of all the events, for worse that they can seem in the instant that had occurred. The frustration, the abandonment, the anger, or cry it, they are fruits of the projection and they indicate that you not yet it grew. If to act almost that daily in such a way, as it will be possible to marry if still is a child and did not ripen? The adults if only marry. The more intense the experiences, more decided we will be for a lasting and happy relationship.